I don’t normally like to write sad posts but the thing is that when something is bothering you too much you just have to let it all out so you feel better. It won’t make things changed but at least after shouting it out to the world you feel a sense of relief so then things can be reconsidered again in a better way and hopefully find a solution or a new direction to follow. At least this is what I hope. Do you agree?
I’m a SAHM which means that I have to take care of my girls full time, especially the little one that is only 15 months. Alongside that, I have my little blog which I’m working really hard to try to take to the next level! The amount of hours that I have put into my blog since I started have been crazy hours really, sometimes staying until 4 or 5 am in the morning!! Yes I know!! I was crazy!! The thing is that I only had and still have some peace and quiet during the night because this is when my 2 girls are finally sleeping. I had days that I thought I could manage it all and days that obviously were physically impossible. Now I’m trying not to do this too often as otherwise I will collapse, so I only do this occasionally so that I don’t get behind with my work. Guess WHAT? I’m still behind with my work! Surprise, surprise… I don’t think there will be a day when I will be able to say that I’m on top of everything! LOL, I really wish for that to happen though so I can feel less stress.
The funny thing is that, every night I put the girls to bed then I have some dinner and finally I sit down in front of my laptop to start doing some work and after a few minutes I’m gone. I fight very hard but I can’t keep my eyes open any more! I just let myself rest and just go to bed. This however, leads to me being absolutely behind with my commitments and it is starting to be a big issue for me. 🙁
The interesting part is that regarding my blog, I’m at the stage at the moment that I feel that I’m progressing a lot with it which I’m really grateful for. I’m having more events to attend, more brands want us to review their products, I get more people contacting us to be part of interesting campaigns, etc BUT the problem is that I don’t have enough TIME to fulfil these responsibilities. I am depended upon 24/7 by a 15 month old super hyper baby girl that doesn’t want to do her nap any more! If that wasn’t enough she is teething badly. I think she is getting all her molars at once! OMG the poor little thing is dribbling like crazy, crying a lot, being extremely clingy with me and of course she has no patience whatsoever. I know this is also a phase and hopefully things will go back to normal but at the moment it is very difficult to cope!
I just wanted to write this because I thought it could be interesting for other people that are not bloggers to see how hard it is to be one, especially a blogger who has kids and has to take care of their kids full-time with no help! Yes, it is hard work and we all try to do the best as we can to fulfil the deadlines because we all love what we do, we all love our blog and we all want our little blog to be one day our main source of income so we can spend more time with our kids.
It is getting more difficult every day and my time is very limited at the moment BUT I’m sure I’ll pass this bad patch and hopefully I will be able to catch up soon and feel less stressed. Wish me luck!
Have you ever felt this way? Do you also agree that being a blogger is not an easy job? What do you normally do to pass over these difficult times? What tips do you have that you would like to share with us about this?
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Mommy's Little Princesses says
*Hugs* oh honey! Gosh i can’t even begin to imagine how swamped and pressured you must be feeling. I have day where I feel I need to write up a post but I either have nothing to blog about or I’m just to tired. Heck sometimes it’s even both. On those days I just have to take a step back and try not to be so hard on myself. Now I know this is easier for me as I’m not a successful blogger as you are, or even in the same league as you. From everything I have read it’s extremely hard work and finding that balance isn’t always easy, but you’re fantastic at what you do honey and I just know you’ll be fine! Good luck hon. Xx #KCACOLS
Jenny (Midwife and Life) says
I feel like I’m in a similar position to you, my blog is the best thing to ever happen to me and I’m getting better at it but I’m seriously lacking in time! I think just pacing ourselves and setting small achievable goals is all we can do. Maybe she could go to nursery for a day or two to help you out x. #KCACOLS
Maddy At The Speed Bump says
You’re so right – it IS tough being a blogger, and people don’t realise that! Sometimes I think it helps to take a step back and a deep breath, and then throw yourself back into it when you’re refreshed and revitalised and missing blogging! You’re doing a great job though and I absolutely love your blog 🙂 thank you for hosting #KCACOLS
Harry's Honest Mummy says
I ran my own business for three years and sold it on because it was breaking me and putting a massive strain on our family life. It was the hardest job I ever had and it totally consumes you 24/7. A: Because it is personal B: Your livelihood depends on it. I’m glad I did it but it is something I would not go back and do again. Any self employed person who makes it look easy just knows how to put on a show, be that a blogger or a builder. The first few years are always the hardest and that is why so many business fail. Don’t put too pressure on yourself to get it right overnight. It’s a marathon not a sprint. Good luck and chin up. #KCACOLS
Mum in Brum says
Aw hun I can completely relate to this feeling! I don’t think people really understand all of the work that goes on behind the scenes as a blogger – especially as you run the linky too. I was explaining to a friend the other day everything I do on the blog and she was amazed – she literally thought it was just the writing of the posts which in my experience is only really 50% of the work. I’m so with you on never having enough time to fulfill everything that I want to – it is so hard with a young baby and then I always feel like I should spend (and would like to) time with the hubby after Taylor’s gone to bed. Hopefully all of our hard work will pay off soon xx #KCACOLS
Rachel (Lifeofmyfamilyandme) says
I have previously commented so i am just popping back from the #KCACOLS 🙂
Mummy here and there says
Sometimes you.just have to say no, clearly your body is wanting a rest. I think toy have to prioritise within your limits as.you are important as well. Maybe when more.time is available.move.them limits X #KCACOLS
tracey bowden says
Oh I totally know how you feel, it’s how I feel everyday. I am putting more work into my blog and my writing but trying to juggle this around working full time and being there for Olivia is so hard. It sounds like you really need a break to catch up on everything #KCACOLS
Ellie @ Hand Me Down Baby says
Oh, how did I miss this post?! Yes to it all. In fact, I just wrote a little post about it myself.
Although you do so much more than me, so now feel slightly inadequate, lol! 😀
Yes I’m sure a lot of people can identify with this feeling!!! Especially us mummy bloggers that we have to find time from not sure where to deal with all our tasks list of each day!! Don’t say that lovely!! The feeling is the same for everybody so it will never be inadequate!! I would love to read your post. Thanks for commenting lovely, 🙂 xx
Maria @ Suburban Mum says
I know how you feel honey! I think we put ourselves under too much pressure! I am definitely going to have a bit of a break over the Christmas holidays to spend with my family. I we think need a break to come back fresh and ready to tackle the New Year!! We can do this! #KCACOLS
Tiffany Sun says
Dang, how many hours do you spend on blogging for you to sleep around 4-5am? Well regardless, it definitely shows on your blog. And I’m not just talking about the design and images, but more of the content you write. Because i read a lot of blogs and not many are as emotional or insightful as yours. So props to you on that. 🙂
To be sincerely honest, it’s tough being a blogger. Because I feel that every post you do, you have to do better the next. It’s expected, for yourself. And I hope that maybe we can share our experiences together and help each other be better at blogging. What you say?
Love to keep in touch!
Tiffany from Rabbut (http://rabbut.com/)
I also blog personally on my Medium account: https://firstname.lastname@example.org