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What Is Most Important To You? How Can You Have More Of This In Your Life?

amomentwithfranca · 11 November 2020 · 14 Comments

This is a guest post written by Sid Madge founder of Meee (My Education Employment Enterprise). If you are looking to read more about motivational topics and reflections on life and what is most important to us, you will find this post very useful.  If you would like to know more about Sid, please scroll down to the bottom of this post where you can find his details, under “About the Author“.

During 2020 many of us have had time to reflect on life and what is most important to us. That reflection has created some surprising results. For example, a YouGov poll shows that only 8% of Britons want to go back to life as it was before the pandemic.

We have an opportunity to go way beyond some compromised version of ‘new normal’. We can take this time to consider what is important to us moving forward and plan the necessary steps to achieve this.

I’m a great believer in the power of micro-moments and tiny interventions that when maintained lead to lasting change. The suggestions below are pulled from my “Meee in a Minute” books, each offering 60 one-minute micro-ideas and insights that can help us to shift our mindset and take positive steps towards making our dreams a reality.

CONFIRM YOUR VALUES

Our values influence our thoughts and actions and yet most of us have never stopped to consider what they are. What’s most important to you in your life? Money? Family? Kindness? Honesty? What do you stand for? What are your ethics or code of conduct? Can you see evidence of these values in your life?

For example, if you believe you value kindness, when did you last demonstrate kindness? If you really want to know what you value look at what you do. If we are to uncover what is really important to us, we have to know our values so we can find more ways to demonstrate those values in our daily life.

Take a minute to consider what you value most. Or visit https://www.meeevalues.com/ and do our values exercise to help you identify your values.

CONNECT THE DOTS

In Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford commencement speech he talked about connecting the dots of our life and how that was never possible looking forward. But when we look back, if we look and pay attention, we can often see patterns or signposts in our life. Jobs suggested that we had to, “trust in something, your gut, destiny, life karma, whatever.”

The key to uncovering what is important to us often lies in the past. It is the recognition of the moments and experiences that, when taken together form a pattern or a direction of travel that will bring purpose and meaning – if we have the courage to pursue them.

Take a minute to map out your interests and where you would like to end up. How can you use the situations and resources in your life right now to reach that outcome faster?

MAKE TIME TO WRITE AN ANTI-BUCKET LIST!

Part of knowing what is important to us is being honest about what is not. We’ve all heard of the bucket-list – the list of all the experiences and adventures we want to have, places we want to visit, things we want to own before we kick the bucket. But the anti-bucket list is just as important. This is the list of the things we can tick off right now because they are just not important to us – regardless of what the success industry tells us.

For example. I used to want to be rich. Now I couldn’t care less. I want to make a difference, that is more in line with my values and is much more important to me than a new car or fancy watch. Recognising that is liberating.

Take a minute to write your anti-bucket list – all the things currently in your life that you would like to stop or get rid of or old goals that are just not that important to you anymore. Free yourself from their grasp and use the injection of energy, time or resources to make the things that are important happen.

BEGIN WITH THE FIRST STEP

Is there something you want to do but you are scared it won’t work out? Perhaps you want to write a book or change career. Maybe you want to lose weight and get fitter but the goal seems too big and too far away. Whatever you want to do – just start. If you want to lose weight, take the stairs today, only have one biscuit with your morning coffee instead of two. The start doesn’t need fireworks or a drumroll, it just needs to happen.

Every book is started by one word. The most awe-inspiring music ever composed starts with a single note. The greatest works of art started with a single brushstroke or single tap of a chisel. Don’t wait until you are ready – no one is ever ready. Besides once you start you will be ready.

Don’t search for signs or defining moments – they may never come. Instead, make now your defining moment. Start now. Don’t question whether you are capable or worthy – just start, start small and keep going. If you falter, get back on track and keep going. Don’t stop until you have achieved what you set out to achieve.

INCREASE YOUR CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

It’s the people in our life that give it meaning. When something good happens, it’s made more enjoyable when we can share it with others. When something bad happens, it can soften the blow when we have others to lean on. We need friends and family as much as we need oxygen.

Take a minute to consider who you spend the most time with. Do those people build you up and encourage you to be the best you can be or do they put you down and diminish your dreams?

Be aware of how you feel when you are with the people in your life, take stock of whether they make you feel better or worse. If they are not adding positive value to your life then consider spending a little less time with those people and seek out like-minded collaborators so you can be each other’s cheerleader.

This is an opportunity; embrace the silver lining the pandemic has given us to design a better tomorrow. With some clarity and planning, we can make it happen.

What Is Most Important To You?

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Sid Madge is founder of Meee (My Education Employment Enterprise) which draws on the best creativity and thinking from the worlds of branding, psychology, neuroscience, education and sociology, to help people achieve extraordinary lives. To date, Meee has transformed the lives of over 20,000 people, from leaders of PLC’s and SME’s to parents, teachers, students, carers, the unemployed and prison inmates. Sid Madge is also the author of the ‘Meee in Minute’ series of books which each offer 60 ways to change your life, work-, or family-life in 60 seconds. These are his social media: Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube and TEDx.

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Franca  💋

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  1. Gemma Hendry says

    17 November 2020 at

    Family is most important to me but cant see a lot due to lockdown

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  2. Amanda Jane Noble says

    19 November 2020 at

    M kids are the most important thing in my life and my little granddaughter x

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  3. Lydia C. Lee says

    21 November 2020 at

    What an interesting post. There’s a lot to think about. I like this Anti-bucketlist idea. Will check out the TEDx too….#KCACOLS

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  4. Carly Crawford says

    22 November 2020 at

    This is really powerful. Thanks for sharing Franca and Sid. I needed to read this today.
    #KCACOLS

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  5. Sarah-Marie says

    22 November 2020 at

    I love the idea of an anti bucket list and recognising the things which aren’t important to you. #KCACOLS

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  6. Jeremy@ThirstyDaddy says

    24 November 2020 at

    A lot of great stuff to think about here. I think that surrounding yourself with positive people is a really important one #KCACOLS

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  7. Jade Page says

    27 November 2020 at

    I love the idea of the anti-bucket list so important to know what we don’t want too. Some great tips thank you, #KCACOLS

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  8. Caroline Hammond says

    9 January 2022 at

    The anti bucket list is definitely something I’m going to do, a lot of my wishes have changed since the pandemic hit

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  9. Anthea Holloway says

    10 January 2022 at

    It is sometimes good to reconsider one’s lifestyle and actions but I also think that it does no good to be too introspective. Looking ahead too far cannot help the here and now!

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  10. Tracey Hallmark says

    11 January 2022 at

    I think it’s important to take time out to evaluate and think about what you want out of life rather than letting one day drift into another

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  11. Emma Barron says

    11 January 2022 at

    My Family is important to me however you still need to take time out for yourself.

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  12. adrian price says

    11 January 2022 at

    some great stuff here –very interesting ideas

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  13. Adrian Bold says

    11 January 2022 at

    My family is most important to me, and I really need to make the effort to spend more time with them.

    Reply
  14. Jeanette Leighton says

    11 January 2022 at

    My children are the most important part of my life its definitely family that gives my life importance

    Reply

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